A caim is a circle drawn around you for protection. This is yours.
Step inside the circle. Bring the story you've been carrying.
I will hold space for you to gently unravel the stories, expectations, and judgments you've carried for too long—so you can understand, process, and release them, and step into the fullness of who you truly are.
In our work together, you will be embraced in your full humanity—held with compassion as you reconnect with the sacred essence of your being. As you release old patterns and step into alignment, you will emerge like a garden in bloom: flourishing with clarity, resilience, and a renewed sense of purpose.
I'm Jessa Frances — holistic memoir writing coach and creator of The Memoir Method, a trauma-informed framework that combines memoir craft, shadow work, and nervous system regulation. Inside the circle, you write your way back to the self you traded away to survive.
Here’s What I Actually Do
Most memoir coaches teach you how to write a book.
I teach you how to use writing to excavate yourself, know yourself, and trust yourself.
There’s a difference.
Because Here’s the Catch:
Who am I to…
leave my husband?
start over at 40?
quit the job everyone says I should be grateful for?
say no to my mother?
ask for what I actually want?
break up my family?
write this story?
think anyone cares?
How can I trust myself when…
I’ve been a chameleon my whole life?
I morph and change to fit the mold?
every decision I’ve made was to please someone else?
I don’t even know what I like anymore?
I can’t remember the last time I felt like myself?
I don’t even know who I really am?
How do I make a decision when…
I’ve spent my whole life letting others decide for me?
I’m terrified of getting it wrong?
everyone will be disappointed in me?
I might lose everything?
You can’t write your story when you don’t know yourself yet.
And you can’t know yourself without writing your story.
That’s the paradox. That’s the work.
I Know Because I Lived It
I joined the Air Force two weeks after high school. Didn’t know who I was. The military decided for me.
Years later, divorced mother of three, I needed to make a decision—leave my marriage, break up my family.
But how could I trust someone I didn’t even know? The chameleon who morphed and changed to be accepted.
I turned to memoir.
Not to tell my story—to find myself in it.
Through writing, I excavated. I discovered. I learned who I was by seeing who I’d been.
Life took me on a wild adventure—a Master’s in Creative Writing (memoir focus) from the University of Aberdeen, 700 hours of trauma-informed yoga teacher training, years learning nervous system regulation, somatic release, shadow work, core wounding.
All of it led me here.
To The Memoir Method. To you.
The Memoir Method Doesn’t Just Help You Write Your Story
It helps you get clear.
It helps you gain confidence.
It helps you finally shift, grow, and become that ‘highest self’ you’ve always dreamed of becoming.
Because think about it:
Every aspect of your life has a story.
Everything that’s ever slowed you down, kept you small, or held you back—there’s a story there.
EVERYTHING is connected to your identity. To your story. To your perspective. To what you believe is true.
So let’s look.
Let’s get clear.
Let’s finally take ownership—authorship—of your life.
You’ll learn:
- Craft — because bad writing keeps you safe, good writing cracks you open
- Shadow work — because the stories that scare you most are the ones you need to write
- Nervous system regulation — because you can’t access deep truth when your body is in threat
- Somatic release — because trauma lives in tissue, not just memory
The result?
Maybe a manuscript you share with the world in a big way.
Maybe several memoir essays you burn and never share.
Maybe just RADICAL growth and the personal transformation you’ve always dreamed of.
A self you actually trust and fully LOVE.
Maybe You Think Your Story Isn’t Interesting Enough
Firstly, that’s just not the point.
But lastly—YES, BABY, it DOES!
Your story matters more than you know.
To you.
To your children.
To your family and friends.
To your community.
You are worthy of this work.
Your story is worthy of being told.
Where to Start
5 acts. 20 modules.
Launching May 2026.
This is the complete system—everything I’ve learned about memoir craft, shadow work, nervous system regulation, and somatic healing, distilled into a self-paced course you can work through at your own rhythm.
This is for you if:
– You want the full methodology without the premium price tag of private coaching
– You work best with structure and clear assignments
– You’re ready to do the deep work but need a roadmap to follow
– You want lifetime access to return to again and again as you grow
Beta access for founding members available now.
Moon ceremonies. Shadow work practices. Writing prompts. Somatic exercises.
This is the container for women doing the deep work of becoming. Not a course. Not coaching. A living, breathing community where you’re held through the excavation.
This is for you if:
– You crave consistent support and accountability
– You want to be witnessed by other women doing this work
– You need practices, not just information
– You’re ready to show up for yourself every month, in ceremony and shadow work
A sacred space for the ones who know transformation isn’t a one-time event—it’s a practice.
Ongoing. Bi-weekly sessions. Craft + shadow work integrated.
This is the most intimate way to work with me. We go deep—into your manuscript, into your blocks, into the stories your body has been holding. You get my full attention, my editorial eye, and my years of training in one container.
This is for you if:
– You’re ready to invest in yourself at the highest level
– You want personalized feedback on your writing AND your process
– You need someone who can hold both the craft and the healing
– You’re committed to the work for as long as it takes
Maximum 6 clients at a time because this work requires presence, not volume.
This Is My Dharma
Air Force veteran. Divorced mother of three. Sexual assault survivor.
Author of Writing My Way Home: Memoir as Shadow Work.
This is one wild, passionate life that IS MINE.
Every day I wake up and get to do ME, get to be radically authentically true to myself.
And darling, you deserve that too.
Stop letting the past run your life.
Stop playing small.
Stop wallowing in resentment, confusion, loneliness, anger… or whatever else it is that’s holding you back from living a life of JOY, wonder, and peace.
This work saved my life and the lives of more and more of my clients every day.
Step into the Caim. Come home to yourself.
It’s time.
Upcoming Retreats and Events
UK Writing Intensive Retreats with Jessica "Jessa" Frances De La Rosa
You’ve always wanted to write your book—but you just keep… not doing it.
Self-sabotage is real and writing a book isn’t for the faint of heart. You have to REALLY want it and you have to make it happen. Beyond the normal time constraints of everyday life we are also often dealing with self-sabotage… but what if we took that out of the equation? What if you had the dedicated time and space with expert guidance and trauma-informed care to not only flow into the writing process, but stay inspired with a teacher, holistic guide, and friend who you knew wasn’t there to judge you but support you through your storytelling process?
Or maybe it’s not a book you’re after, but rather an opportunity to finally and truly push through your limiting beliefs and the old programming keeping you stuck, playing small, and/or feeling uncertain of who you are and your purpose in this life.
Either way—this opportunity is for you.
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Hi, I’m Jessa Frances, and I would love to be a light for you, a guide on your path of healing and self-discovery.
Living in Charleston, South Carolina, I offer a variety of in-person and virtual experiences. My heart has a deep affinity for nature, and I find peace in the outdoors. I’m also completely obsessed with tea and have been living a mindful life as an alcohol-free beverage consultant since 2022.
Before all of this, I served in the Air Force, living in nine states and five countries. But no amount of moving could prepare me for the moment my entire life as I knew it crumbled.
After my divorce in 2018, I felt completely lost—uncertain of myself and the world I lived in. I didn’t have the answers; all I knew was that I had to keep going, to figure it out one day at a time. Through writing, movement, and connecting with nature, I slowly began not to “find myself,” but to unbecome—to strip away everything I thought I had been or should be.
I had to face my story, process my life’s experiences, and finally release the patterns that had kept me stuck in shame, self-loathing, and desperation. It wasn’t easy, but it was transformative. And through that process, I learned how to hold space for others as they do the same.
I know what it feels like to be lost, and I also know the way through. You are not alone. I’m here to support you as you move forward—one step, one breath, one truth at a time
I’ve walked through the pain and can now offer a compassionate, supportive space for you as you traverse your own story. I am here to remind you that you are not alone. I see you. I hear you. I know you and I love you.
Hey Dreamer, this is for you
SURE, YOU COULD PUSH THROUGH ON YOUR OWN
BUT IS THAT REALLY THE BEST WAY FORWARD?
You’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed by your goals, and the fear of falling short. It’s easy to lose momentum, but it doesn’t have to be this way. I’ve been there too, and I’m here to help you turn that struggle into a breakthrough.
Join me for a free masterclass where you’ll gain the clarity and confidence to keep moving forward, with support every step of the way.
Through this work, you will become a person who:
- No longer feels trapped by past narratives, conditioning, or expectations—you choose your path with clarity and confidence.
- Trusts your body’s wisdom and understands that healing isn’t about “fixing” yourself but about integrating and honoring all parts of you.
- Releases the need for external validation and instead finds deep self-assurance in your own truth and intuition.
- Moves through life with more ease—letting go of perfectionism, self-sacrifice, and the constant pressure to “do more.”
- Embraces your emotions as guides rather than burdens, allowing them to teach, heal, and expand you.
- Understands and honors your nervous system, allowing you to release people-pleasing behaviors and recognize that every ingrained habit once served as a mechanism to keep you “safe.”
- Reclaims your energy, untangling yourself from trauma, shame, and limiting beliefs that once kept you small.
- Stands in your full power—rooted, whole, and unapologetically yourself—no matter what challenges arise.
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